Well *that* was depressing

You know that song "You are my sunshine"? Its possibly one of the most depressing songs I've heard when sung by an adult to an acoustic background. Heard it in the car this morning and had to resist the temptation to ram the car into the motorway sidings. Seriously horrible song about love, loss and broken hearts in 4 easy verses.

In other news, placement is ticking along nicely. I got to dress bilateral venous legs ulcers today, and administer 2 types of injections. I also got to prime a McKinley pump, used a lot in palliative care for administration of subcutaneous medications like morphine. I got to stick a needle in a nurse to practice, its like a fish hook. I felt bad but also secretly rather excited.

What else - been having discussions via the interwebs about Female Genital Mutilation, Male Genital Mutilation, feminism and equalism. I've often wondered if I am a feminist or an equalist, and if I am a feminist how far into the feminist spectrum do I fall?

Am I close to the "all men are rapists" spectrum or closer to the "Treat me with respect and men are alright spectrum"?

I suspect I am not much of a feminist at all given my reaction to some of the postings by other women who profess to be feminists. Sitting at home all day, not working, refusing to do any housework because its subjugation of women and enforcement of gender roles? No, its just fucking laziness. Sorry.

This is where I am an unhappy camper. Personally, if both parties in a household are working then both parties should also equally contribute to the housework. If I am out of work and at home all day, and my partner is out working all day, is it really fair of me to expect him to come home and do the housework in its entirety? Similarly if the situation was reversed, and I'm out earning all the money, and husband was sitting at home watching Loose Women, I'd expect to come home and have dinner prepared and the house clean. I don't think that's unreasonable.

Now I get stay at home parents have a lot of work to do with children, but there's a difference between genuinely being too rushed to get any time to attend to housework, and as it should be the kids should come first after all, but refusal to do it based on the grounds that its reinforcing gender stereotypes? Thats just flat out asking to get labelled as lazy.

I also understand that my like of crafty shit like baking, cooking, knitting etc lets the side down, after all do I like these things because I find them fun to do or because I've been socially conditioned that these are feminine tasks. I get it too, that I am a disappointment, that if husband earned enough money I would quite happily stay at home to raise kids whilst perhaps working part time. I would be happy with that lot, but this apparently also lets the side down. I thought that the basic driving force behind feminism was giving women equal rights and then the associated right to choose what they do with their life?

Thoughts please.